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Dublin Speed Dating: How Many Kids Do You Want And Other Inappropriate Questions?

Dublin speed dating should be gone into with an open mind. The more open you are to meeting different people, the more fun you will have at an event, and the less nervous you will be. Preparing in advance also help with the nerves, and stops you from making mistakes when chatting.

One mistake that people sometimes make when speed dating is to ask inappropriate questions. They may not do it on purpose, looking to provoke a response, but without proper planning the question they have in their head may sound strange when said out loud! One such question is ‘how many children do you want?’ or ‘do you want children?’ Whichever variation is used during a UK speed dating event, it can be extremely off putting for the person who is on the receiving end. This is just one example of a deeply personal question, that isn’t appropriate for a first meeting for numerous reasons. Firstly, it makes it seem as if you are in a hurry to get to this stage of the relationship, secondly, you have no idea how the subject may emotionally affect the person you are talking to. You should also be careful asking about existing children, unless they come up in conversation naturally. Other inappropriate questions that are best avoided on a first date of any type include ‘how much do you earn?’ and ‘do you own your own home.’ As well as being invasive, they give the impression of someone making decisions based on financial goals rather than personal connections.

Talking and asking the right questions is the most essential part of Dublin speed dating. Everything else will fall into place after that. Join us at Ditch or Date Ltd (https://www.ditchordate.com) to sign up for your next speed dating event. Have you got questions? We’ll answer them as fully as possible on 0191 486 2328, or helen@ditchordate.com.